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My girlfriend wants me to marry her
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 Bernard Wrangler |
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Posts: 17726 (11/10/09 8:46 PM) this won't end well.
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Lila Fowler |
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Posts: 4671 (11/10/09 8:47 PM) |
Trixie Delight wrote: teehee, I have you beat by a few days but good to know it doesn't always spell disaster, despite what 99.9% of people have told us (^_^) |
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Zzunk |
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Posts: 6459 (11/10/09 9:27 PM) Registered User |
7 years and no lesbian bed death??
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MMMadcow |
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Posts: 7172 (11/10/09 9:35 PM) Registered User |
Lila Fowler wrote: My husband proposed a couple months into the relationship, and we celebrated 25 years last April. Winner winner, chicken dinner. |
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suak.survivorphilipp... |
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Posts: 92 (11/10/09 9:44 PM) |
go for it!
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Apprentice Talker |
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Posts: 11081 (11/10/09 9:52 PM) WRP Official Spokesperson |
Seven years and no say "I Do". That is the longest date in a relationship ever.
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maadx |
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Posts: 5448 (11/10/09 11:12 PM) Registered user |
tell her you might be gay..
that'll buy u time yw |
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mountaineer20 |
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Posts: 6770 (11/10/09 11:21 PM) Registered user |
I am having debates with myself over the value of getting married. It's my friend's mother's fault. She asked when we were going to get married and
we said probably never. Then she said "Don't you think you owe it to yourselves and your relationship to stand up in front of the world and say that
you're committed to each other and you're staying with each other, good and bad, forever?"
My gf blushed furiously and stammered adorably. I said I didn't think I was the marrying kind. I wouldn't mind being married, because what's the difference from what we are now? We live together, own our house together, and approach the world as a team. I just don't think I want to get married - the whole being the centre of attention thing isn't for me. I don't think it's for my gf either, but if it was, I'd suck it up and put on a dress and walk down the aisle of doom for her. Because I know I'm never going to leave her (and, frankly, I'm lucky I got her), and if it would make her happy, I would do it. Even though I'm a shorts and t-shirt and case of beer kind of girl. So, if it's important to your girlfriend, and it would make her happy, and it doesn't change things as far as you're concerned, why not do it? |
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Axle the Bulldog |
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Posts: 982 (11/11/09 2:32 AM) Registered user |
I've been with my "husband" for fifteen years and still no wedding. We are both fine with that. We've been living together for ten years so
we're basically married. We even call each other husband and wife.
I don't buy the argument of not being fully committed to each other unless you get married. In my opinion, if you need a sheet of paper and a huge party to be secure in your commitment to one another, then you're not really trusting your relationship. I think it means a lot more when you are aware of how easy it is to cheat or leave each other because you aren't married and decide not to do it anyways because you don't want too. I'm not against marriage, I just think that the above argument isn't a good one. |
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MyPetGoat |
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Posts: 2336 (11/11/09 3:25 AM) Registered User |
I don't buy it either but it is interesting to me how many people still do.
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Baby Please |
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Posts: 7302 (11/11/09 7:24 AM) Baby Pees |
Jesus, all of you who think you MUST get married or other wise you obviously don't love the other person are a bunch of freaking insecure idiots. marriage
does not equal security and if you think you need a marriage to be secure, there is no hope for you, you are destined to go though life as an oblivious dumdum.
The mister and I have been together for going on 13 years. Engaged for 6. no plans to get actually married. We are secure in our relationship and we love each other more than anything and we don't need a piece of paper to prove that. |
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Driv |
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Posts: 5215 (11/11/09 7:26 AM) Registered user |
but you two have the chickens to keep you together
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Cleofuss |
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Posts: 3482 (11/11/09 7:35 AM) |
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Baby Please |
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Posts: 7303 (11/11/09 7:38 AM) Baby Pees |
True Driv. Chickens will keep us together.
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Penelope McBagpipe |
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Posts: 11400 (11/11/09 7:43 AM) Geenyus extraordinaire
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Chickens. Chickens will keep us together. Think of them beep whenever some smooth guy comes walking along with a better bong.
That settles it. I'm going back to bed. |
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glazerboy |
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Posts: 3500 (11/11/09 8:43 AM) Registered User |
Do it. I hear married people get to have sex every day of the week.
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MyPetGoat |
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Posts: 2338 (11/11/09 8:46 AM) Registered User |
So less eh? That sucks.
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mountaineer20 |
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Posts: 6772 (11/11/09 9:39 AM) Registered user |
Beep, I'm not saying you need to be married. If what you're doing works for you, then that's great (although you're gonna miss out on some
sweet wedding gifts. You should see what I was going to get you.)
I'm just saying that if the person you're with wants to get married, and it's important to him/her, and it would make them happy - why not just do it, if you're planning on being with them forever anyhow? |
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Eric in San Diego |
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Posts: 1207 (11/11/09 10:56 AM) |
A story from SoCal:
Two sweet lesbians, together for over five years, decide to get married. They already live in a house they bought together, co-mingle funds, own a boat, and are wonderfully happy together. The wedding planning process begins and immediately adds stress and worry. A simple exchange of vows in front of a few family members and friends grows to become a Maui beach adventure for thirty! Matching outfits are tailored that don't quite match, matching platinum and diamond rings experience cost overruns/fitting issues, granny yells at one family for supporting queers, stress ratchets up. Wedding happens on the beach in Maui. Everyone is exhausted, but happy. Of course, the marriage isn't LEGAL, so return to San Diego and stand before the JOP for legally binding ceremony. Two weeks later, California repeals gay marriage law, but the happy couple are "grandfathered" in. A year later, the house is in foreclosure, the boat has been sold, one woman has put on thirty five pounds while the other has lost twenty she couldn't afford. Was it all the fault of the MUST GET MARRIED mentality? Who knows? The one absolute certainty is that this "event" put stress on this relationship that was unneccessary. IMHO, the two would have been far happier and much more secure without the pressure exerted on them by the marriage. Just sayin'... |
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Baby Please |
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Posts: 7305 (11/11/09 11:01 AM) Baby Pees |
mountaineer20 wrote: oh mountie I'm sorry! I totally got what you were saying. My post was directed at Peaches&Cream with her backwards your nothing if not married thing and he/she doesn't love you. |
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