The Silent Treatment ... at Work

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Trixie Delight		#41	[-]
Posts: 27127 (06/23/09 4:31 PM) put Angel in the corner Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Zzunk wrote: You people make me laugh. I'm pretty much a laid-back supervisor. I don't dictate when people arrive or leave for work, provided they put in their usual hours. There's no official office attire or flair requirements -- people just need to be presentable to customers. And we all get along fine, joke around, have lunch together occasionally and drink beer on Friday afternoons (in the office). It's sufficiently unstructured that we avoid hiring people under 25 because they don't have enough self-discipline. Still, when someone's performance is sliding or not improving, then something has to be done, right? By the time I've lowered the boom on someone, it's after three or four times of having said something in a more relaxed manner. Maybe I should just resort to writing memos that tell people to get their ass in gear or find another job -- would that please you Sucksters? Or should my collegues just sit around all day posting messages on stupid-ass electronic bulletin boards? I'm with you dude. Get rid of the underperformers. You might not get invited to anymore bumper pool parties, though.
kf59		#42	[-]
Posts: 8335 (06/23/09 4:38 PM) Registered Abuser Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	SonOfAbraxas wrote: BoBro ALWAYS beats me to the "Don't get me started" picture! GRRRRRRRRRR! I'm probably only one of 3 people that laughed and laughed and laughed when I saw those skits on SNL. I need to photobucket that right away so I always have it handy. Um, Dumas, you can actually upload pix to Yuku ( loser ) !
A Bartholomew		#43	[-]
Posts: 5330 (06/23/09 4:40 PM) Patriots:Worst 11-5 team EVER Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Zzunk wrote: So three weeks ago, I told someone that I supervise that they need to speed up their work and they should also read some quarterly publications to be better versed on the industry. Since then, that person has improved their work speed by roughly 3 percent by mainly by avoiding interacting with others. They have also gone from business attire to casual Friday attire everyday, leaving the complex for most breaks/lunches and departing promptly at 5 PM. From a supervisor's point of view, they are digging the rut deeper, not climbing out of it. This is the fourth person in five years that I've noticed this pseudo-hibernation behavior when they gets some critical remarks. All have either quit or being shown the door because they couldn't turn it around and get on par with the rest of the office. I've experienced this kind of behavior in relationships (and it often leads to capitulation/apologies on my part), but will someone explain why someone does it at work when it could cost them their job? Sounds like you're the problem, not them. Piece of shit. Fuck you.
Jitensha		#44	[-]
Posts: 18288 (06/23/09 4:41 PM) I Must Be Psychic Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Hi Abart <3
A Bartholomew		#45	[-]
Posts: 5331 (06/23/09 4:42 PM) Patriots:Worst 11-5 team EVER Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Hi
Lila Fowler		#46	[-]
Posts: 1436 (06/23/09 4:45 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	meh, shit like this is why I can't work for the MAN. can't stand the cubicles, can't stand the business lunches, can't stand the hours, can't stand the work "friends" who secretly hate you, can't stand the performance reviews, can't stand the forced teamwork, can't stand hearing the bitch in the next cubicle breathe, can't stand the arbitrary raises and bonuses which seem dependant upon who has kissed the most ass that quarter, can't stand the dull colours, can't stand the temperature, can't stand the stolen lunch goodies, can't stand the apathy, can't stand the boring old peeps, can't stand the doods shamelessly checking out my backfat, can't stand the hierarchical system because no matter how hard you work you will never really change things since the problems with the company start at the top but they'll never admit to it, can't stand the pointless goal setting, can't really stand any of it I must be one of those terrible brats you won't hire, except I start out quiet and then slowly let out the RAGE until the inevitable firing/quitting scene.
Eric in San Diego		#47	[-]
Posts: 608 (06/23/09 4:48 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	I gotta sympathize with zz here a bit...we're starting to see a trend similar to this in aerospace as well. These bright, young engineers come out of MIT, Cal Poly, USC, etc., with very little experience with criticism...even of the most positive kind. All of their lives, they've been told that they are perfect...that they cannot fail...that their little poopies do not smell bad. When they hit the real world and expectations are levied, they tend to freak out and shut down when called to task! I even see this in softball...the generation of "there are no winners and no losers, everybody gets a trophy!" is coming home to roost and it's gonna get harder and harder for them AND for the rest of us. Kinda sad, really... DAMN YOU, DR. SPOCK!! DAMN YOU TO HELL!!!
yukugajoob		#48	[-]
Posts: 1339 (06/23/09 4:49 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Trixie Delight wrote: Zzunk wrote: You people make me laugh. I'm pretty much a laid-back supervisor. I don't dictate when people arrive or leave for work, provided they put in their usual hours. There's no official office attire or flair requirements -- people just need to be presentable to customers. And we all get along fine, joke around, have lunch together occasionally and drink beer on Friday afternoons (in the office). It's sufficiently unstructured that we avoid hiring people under 25 because they don't have enough self-discipline. Still, when someone's performance is sliding or not improving, then something has to be done, right? By the time I've lowered the boom on someone, it's after three or four times of having said something in a more relaxed manner. Maybe I should just resort to writing memos that tell people to get their ass in gear or find another job -- would that please you Sucksters? Or should my collegues just sit around all day posting messages on stupid-ass electronic bulletin boards? I'm with you dude. Get rid of the underperformers. You might not get invited to anymore bumper pool parties, though. Big red ecks. I am currently leading a campaign to get rid of one of my "peers" who takes 5 days to complete a project that shouldn't even take a half day! I answered the same question about the same detail on the same page of the same project no less than 4 times in 2 days. It's as if every day when he wakes up he hits "reset" on his brain. Scrape 'em off! There are too many competent workers out there right now who would be glad to put in some effort!
Zzunk		#49	[-]
Posts: 5527 (06/23/09 5:38 PM) Registered User Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Lila Fowler wrote: meh, shit like this is why I can't work for the MAN. can't stand the cubicles, can't stand the business lunches, can't stand the hours, can't stand the work "friends" who secretly hate you, can't stand the performance reviews, can't stand the forced teamwork, can't stand hearing the bitch in the next cubicle breathe, can't stand the arbitrary raises and bonuses which seem dependant upon who has kissed the most ass that quarter, can't stand the dull colours, can't stand the temperature, can't stand the stolen lunch goodies, can't stand the apathy, can't stand the boring old peeps, can't stand the doods shamelessly checking out my backfat, can't stand the hierarchical system because no matter how hard you work you will never really change things since the problems with the company start at the top but they'll never admit to it, can't stand the pointless goal setting, can't really stand any of it I must be one of those terrible brats you won't hire, except I start out quiet and then slowly let out the RAGE until the inevitable firing/quitting scene. Hopefully Lila, you'll work for yourself someday (assuming that's not the case right now). Then you'll put in 65 hours a week, get an occasional holiday, a one-week vacation every two years, a two-week vacation every 10 years, and get stressed with the revolving feast-and-famine paycheck syndrome. But at least you won't have to answer to the man and you'll probably be happier, too.
dmb154678		#50	[-]
Posts: 32855 (06/23/09 5:40 PM) Sexy asshole Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	people who react with the passive aggressive silent treatment shit at work need to go. go take out your drama on your family.
Lila Fowler		#51	[-]
Posts: 1446 (06/23/09 5:42 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	zuuuummmmm, I'm going the academic route. If I'm going to get all stressed out, it's gotta be over something interesting. Mebbers one day I'll be lecturing and/or corrupting your kids . . .
factoryhurl		#52	[-]
Posts: 9845 (06/23/09 5:42 PM) Registered user Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	^ that's what i do. i worked for enough tyrants in this lifetime. of course i will admit that i learned more from the tyrants than the kick back jacks.
goner1		#53	[-]
Posts: 7072 (06/23/09 6:39 PM) Registered User Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	wouldn't it be dull if we liked everyone at work? our lunch room is sort of a loser lounge at work. it's only the boss, a couple of low level staff, and two, least competent (they're in there to suck up), co-workers, who eat in the lunch room at my work. if i go in intending to eat there (pretty rare) i'll leave if the incompetents are there. i wonder what they think when i walk in with a plate of food then walk out.
SonOfAbraxas		#54	[-]
Posts: 11115 (06/23/09 6:41 PM) BB Forum Moderator Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	kf59 wrote: SonOfAbraxas wrote: BoBro ALWAYS beats me to the "Don't get me started" picture! GRRRRRRRRRR! I'm probably only one of 3 people that laughed and laughed and laughed when I saw those skits on SNL. I need to photobucket that right away so I always have it handy. Um, Dumas, you can actually upload pix to Yuku ( loser ) ! YOU SHUT UP KF!!! Photobucket links right into yuku too, ya know!
Monsieur Muggles		#55	[-]
Posts: 7452 (06/23/09 7:02 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Eric in San Diego wrote: I gotta sympathize with zz here a bit...we're starting to see a trend similar to this in aerospace as well. These bright, young engineers come out of MIT, Cal Poly, USC, etc., with very little experience with criticism...even of the most positive kind. All of their lives, they've been told that they are perfect...that they cannot fail...that their little poopies do not smell bad. When they hit the real world and expectations are levied, they tend to freak out and shut down when called to task! I even see this in softball...the generation of "there are no winners and no losers, everybody gets a trophy!" is coming home to roost and it's gonna get harder and harder for them AND for the rest of us. Kinda sad, really... DAMN YOU, DR. SPOCK!! DAMN YOU TO HELL!!! Who's fault is this really? The same supervisors complaining about this new generation of workers are the same people who helped raise them.
UndifferentCow		#56	[-]
Posts: 1183 (06/23/09 7:07 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	goner1 wrote: i wonder what they think when i walk in with a plate of food then walk out. I've done this a couple times, people smacking away on their food and talking the whole time is disgusting.
Zzunk		#57	[-]
Posts: 5529 (06/23/09 7:10 PM) Registered User Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Most 20-somethings are lousy employees. They expect to be promoted before they've earned it. They don't stick around at their first couple of jobs for more than 2 years each. They talk too much. They expect co-workers to cut them some slack for having partied the night before. They use up their vacation time in the summer, then ask for time off at Thanksgiving or Christmas. They expect to be trained to do everything, not just their job. They steal clients to take to their new job. Yep, that was me 20+ years ago.
Monsieur Muggles		#58	[-]
Posts: 7454 (06/23/09 7:13 PM) Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Well I guess it's good that you qualified that with "most" then, because that certainly isn't the way I operate at a job.
Shagnanigans		#59	[-]
Posts: 3737 (06/23/09 7:18 PM) I'm not drunk Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Pfffft bullshit generalization. At most of my jobs, there is no clear age divider when it comes to that behavior. You'll see it some young people but also in some older ones. When I was QAing for an annuities company, most of the lazy, crappy employees were over forty. Meanwhile I worked my ass off, and older people were promoted because of seniority, even if they sucked. The age thing is tricky, there is prejudice on both sides. Zz, how often do you give positive feedback? If you only touch base with your underlings when they fuck up, then you're going to have unhappy people.
Zzunk		#60	[-]
Posts: 5530 (06/23/09 7:33 PM) Registered User Reply Quote More Recent Posts Message Connection Block Invite	Shag -- Every time someone gives me something to review, or they complete a report, I scribble out a "good job" or "the customer will be happy with this." If word gets back to me that someone did something right for a customer, I make sure they get a copy of the email, or I'll post it on their door. If we're out of town on business, I'll buy a round of drinks and toast the group on making a good presentation. On the flipside, if someone screws up, I just say it right then and there -- instant feedback, no waiting for their performance review to find out if I'm keeping track of that crap (I don't). If someone comes in after 10AM, I tell them to call or email that they'll be late as a courtesy to the rest of us. If someone really messes up, I'll get another person or myself to do the major repairs, then tell them to send it out to the customer. It hurts their pride to do it that way, but we can't afford for a second attempt that isn't a home run. Most people I've worked with seem to stick around for 5+ years. I stay in touch with at least 50 percent of them after we've gone different directions.

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