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Dealing with an extremely clingy SO
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Posts: 2019 (06/26/08 1:09 AM) Registered User |
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Posts: 11482 (06/26/08 10:50 AM) Registered user |
candi7of9 wrote: Candi, how important will the good looks and good cooking be when he starts beating the shit out of you? When you have to go to the emergency room in the middle of the night to get a broken arm set, will you lie to the doctor about how it happened so you don't get him into trouble? Or will you just blame it on yourself, like you're doing right now to explain why he's so clingy? Seriously, this is the classic early stage of an abusive relationship.
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Citizen Postal |
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Posts: 395 (06/26/08 10:58 AM) |
Keep him. He's just an alien advance scout from the "Greys". I have indeed heard thusly, though I have not personally experienced or investigated these claims. I suggest consulting with R or Star Jumper for a first hand account. |
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DYATH |
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Posts: 298 (06/26/08 11:03 AM) |
He loves me, cares about me, is faithful to me, cooks really well, is attractive, shares many of my interests, listens to me, tells me I'm beautiful every day, respects me, does not hurt me physically or emotionally, apologizes for even the smallest tresspasses, makes me laugh, believes in me, encourages me, and (last but not least) puts up with me--a huge plus I think we can all agree. I also really like and admire his mother. Umm, that is the very DEFINITION of a loser. |
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Posts: 3043 (06/26/08 11:16 AM) Geenyus extraordinaire
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COME ON PEOPLE - step up the originality of your ghosties when you start r/l advice threads.
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Dr Weems |
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Posts: 38490 (06/26/08 11:28 AM) |
Candi my love....I would never cling to you.
I would always grant you the freedom a beautiful butterfly like you needs. Won't you reconsider our love? There's still time for us to be together forever. Yours forever, Weems |
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IndifferentCow |
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Posts: 1437 (06/26/08 11:36 AM) Huge apathy
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Whoa...Amy's out?
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Dr Weems |
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Posts: 38495 (06/26/08 1:57 PM) |
My heart will ALWAYS belong to Candi first.
I was willing to "settle" with Amy....but let's be honest.... ....I would walk on Amykins in a minute for the love of Candi. That is who I am. |
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rolandofthewhite |
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Posts: 1122 (06/26/08 3:33 PM) Registered User |
Trixie Delight wrote: Um, yeah, I think they would make a lovely pair. The cryer stayed at my apartment for a few days while she was in town, and when she had to leave she had a fucking meltdown. |
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ogmious |
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Posts: 801 (06/27/08 1:45 PM) Local user |
fuck, im having similar problems with my girlfriend.
"its possible, if i found the woman attractive, that i could be turned on by her. but since im very happy with the relationship i have, i would never allow myself to be put in that position."
i suppose i could have gave her the stock answer i knew she wanted to hear, but im just getting fed up
sugar-coating my response to this often-asked line of questioning. needless to say the fallout wasnt pretty...
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Posts: 19685 (06/27/08 1:50 PM) Registered user |
Oh day after day, there are girls in the office,
And men will always be men, So don't send him off, with your hair still in curlers, You may not see him again. For wives (and whiny fiancees) should be lovers too, Run to his arms, the moment he comes home to you. He's almost here.... |
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Angela in WI |
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Posts: 23597 (06/27/08 2:50 PM) Registered User |
ogmious if you could have a lap dance would you prefer it from your girlfriend or would you be open to one from someone else?
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ogmious |
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Posts: 802 (06/27/08 5:54 PM) Local user |
angela, i think i know where youre going with this question and im ashamed to say that the answer probably isnt as clear-cut as it should be. i will say that
in the duration of our relationship i have never had a lap dance, and that decision has been made entirely without her influence. personally, i think its more
than reasonable to ask your significant other to keep their hands (and their laps) to themselves, but asking that they deny something as primal and personal as
attraction? that seems excessive to me, not to mention unrealistic.
and i know it goes both ways; i have no doubt that dudes hit on my girlfriend when im not around, and that she is frequently exposed to good looking men. and honestly, i dont have a huge problem with that. appearance is always important but there is just so much more to a person that makes them desirable. she claims - and has claimed vehemently - that she doesnt even notice other attractive men. i reluctantly believe her. but for better or worse, i am wired differently than she is; i cant honestly say that i dont find other women in this world attractive. to do so would be a lie. im growing tired of tailoring my answers to conform to her delicate sensitivities. dont get me wrong, i dream of growing old with this woman, and i think she is beautiful both inside and out, i just wonder if two people with such different outlooks on romance can ever be compatible. |
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DYATH |
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Posts: 356 (06/27/08 5:59 PM) |
are capital letters broken on yr keyboard?
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ogmious |
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Posts: 803 (06/27/08 9:29 PM) Local user |
YES
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Angela in WI |
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Posts: 23620 (06/27/08 9:37 PM) Registered User |
My answer has to be seen through the glasses of one who has just reconnected with her soulmate but I know at least right now in his case he has no desire to go
to a stripclub and get a lap dance. If he wants a lap dance he wants me to be the one doing it. And I am sure he finds other chicks attractive and that does
not bother me. However, what I love is he will see a woman with hot shoes on (he has a bit of a shoe fetish) and his first thought is to ask her where she
bought them because he wants to get me a pair.
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ogmious |
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Posts: 804 (06/27/08 10:42 PM) Local user |
Capitals for DYATH (how ironic):
Good for you Angela, it sounds like the reconnection was worth it. At the end of the day, my girlfriend is the one I want to see in the hot shoes. No doubt. Too bad shes nuts, lol. Let me ask you, as a woman - and from reading your posting history - Im assuming you find men attractive occasionally? Would you feel guilty for feeling that way, even though you are now in a productive relationship? From your point of view (and a generalized female point of view) is it wrong to love someone but still find others of the opposite sex attractive at the same time? Are women predisposed to individualized affection? I ask from a point of honest ignorance... Cheers. |
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Angela in WI |
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Posts: 23655 (06/27/08 10:56 PM) Registered User |
I think you have to be secure enough in yourself to not be bothered about your Sig Other finding other attractive. I know that my guy finds other women
attractive but the attraction is just physical none of the emotional is there. Just like I have the same feelings. I think Matthew McConaughey is sexy as hell.
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ogmious |
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Posts: 805 (06/27/08 11:11 PM) Local user |
L-I-V-I-N!
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Beefcake |
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Posts: 1009 (06/28/08 6:23 AM) Registered User |
Men are always going to notice attractive women. As one of my friends says, "I may be married, but I'm not blind." Whenever I hear a woman say,
"My BF/husband doesn't even notice any woman except me!" I know her husband/BF is a liar.
The kind of neediness and clinging that we've been discussing in this thread comes from insecurity. Women/men who need constant assurances and constant attention lack a healthy self-image and are trying to use the relationship to fill the emptiness they feel inside. And that doesn't work. It's a cliche, but you have to love yourself before you can possibly love another person. |
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Then she called me and asked me to write a song for her, WTF.
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