Now the domestic violence agency Pickler's mother volunteers for wanted to respond to our story on behalf of abused women everywhere.

Kellie Pickler revealed a side to Eyewitness News most people have never seen before. She cried as she talked about her mother Cynthia Malone. "I just& I just wish that, I don't know why you want anything to do with me now when you never wanted anything to do with me in my whole life ever," she said.

Pickler's feelings of abandonment and anger are common according to Adam Hartzell, head of InterAct, Wake County's agency for domestic violence victims.

"It's not uncommon for children to feel like victims in these situations as well and they're totally justified in that and we frequently forget about how much domestic violence impacts children that are growing up in these homes," Hartzell said.

Pickler's mother, Cynthia Malone volunteers for InterAct. She regularly tells her story of abuse and her decision to leaver her daughter behind with her grandparents. "I did what was in the best interest for her, Miss Kellie," Cynthia said. "The beatings came more frequent. I knew I was going to lose my life if I didn't leave."

Hartzell says the most dangerous time for a woman is when she makes that decision to leave. "Statistics say that they are at a 75% increased risk of homicide at that point so part of what a woman is trying to do is keep herself safe and to keep her children safe and they are often faced with horrible options," Hartzell explains.

We interviewed Cynthia in Victims' Memorial Gardens - a place she feels her name could have ended up. We asked her why she didn't take Kellie with her. "I tried one time and he ran my car off the road," Cynthia said. "I ran just as hard as I could in my car to the police department. Now mind you I still had a bruised face. The police officer seen him snatch Kellie away from me and she became 50/50 property so in order to get her back I had to go back."

Kellie Pickler responded to her mother's story by saying, "If my dad or anyone was abusive to her, you're going to leave your kid there to be in the abuse as well? It doesn't make sense."

"In domestic violence situations it's about power and control and there's no better way for an abuser to try to gain control over this person than to use the children," Hartzell explains. "Because they know that's going to be effective but that puts the children in a horrible situation and increases the level of danger that those children may face so a lot of times moms will try to protect their kids by looking for options other than having their kids with them."

Last year in North Carolina 79 people were killed in domestic violence murders. Five of the victims were children and another 34 children watched their parents get killed.

InterAct says the decision to leave a child behind or with someone else is sometimes the safest option. "It often can be a sign a love that they really care so much about this child that they are thinking more about this child than themselves," Hartzell said.

A sign of love that Kellie Pickler may never understand. She told her mother during an interview with Eyewitness News, "Just leave me alone."

bzzbarfly wrote:

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Ummmm...the last time I checked,Carrie writes songs..actually a song she wrote is going to be #1 on the country charts in about a week...and since when isn't Carrie humble? You people must not listen to anything that she says.
While I am starting to enjoy Pukeler more these days, she really needs to stop with her fake ass crying EVERY SINGLE TIME she sings that song about her mom....it makes her seem less genuine.

Co-Writes songs. Big difference. You can get a co-write credit by putting ONE word in a song.