angela, i think i know where youre going with this question and im ashamed to say that the answer probably isnt as clear-cut as it should be. i will say that in the duration of our relationship i have never had a lap dance, and that decision has been made entirely without her influence. personally, i think its more than reasonable to ask your significant other to keep their hands (and their laps) to themselves, but asking that they deny something as primal and personal as attraction? that seems excessive to me, not to mention unrealistic.

and i know it goes both ways; i have no doubt that dudes hit on my girlfriend when im not around, and that she is frequently exposed to good looking men. and honestly, i dont have a huge problem with that. appearance is always important but there is just so much more to a person that makes them desirable.

she claims - and has claimed vehemently - that she doesnt even notice other attractive men. i reluctantly believe her. but for better or worse, i am wired differently than she is; i cant honestly say that i dont find other women in this world attractive. to do so would be a lie. im growing tired of tailoring my answers to conform to her delicate sensitivities. dont get me wrong, i dream of growing old with this woman, and i think she is beautiful both inside and out, i just wonder if two people with such different outlooks on romance can ever be compatible.