candi7of9 wrote:
Ouija and IFYOUSEEKATE made me laugh. <3
He does not call a lot during the day. I'd say we trust each other. He obviously is not thinking I'm cheating, because it's around our place that the clinginess occurs. He is 30. Definitely not a virgin when we met. Not a Peterson. Been together for 2 years. It's hard to say whether he was like this when we met, because in the early stages of a relationship it seems normal to want to be with somebody all the time. He knows I post here but he does not read this board. If I were posting this when he was awake he'd want to know what I was typing.
I appreciate all the advice and I respect your opinions, but I'm not even entertaining the idea of splitting with him. He loves me, cares about me, is faithful to me, cooks really well, is attractive, shares many of my interests, listens to me, tells me I'm beautiful every day, respects me, does not hurt me physically or emotionally, apologizes for even the smallest tresspasses, makes me laugh, believes in me, encourages me, and (last but not least) puts up with me--a huge plus I think we can all agree. I also really like and admire his mother. I've dated enough men to know this one is quite a catch.
Of course I could be wrong, but I believe his clinginess is in part reactionary. To me it is just a symptom and I believe I share part of the responsibility for it, which is why I want to know what I can do to help. The problem is that I have always been on the other side of this fence (completely smitten to the point of obsession) so I have absolutely no first-hand experience to draw upon. I guess I need to use my previous experiences to put myself into his shoes.
I feel like I should be paying you guys. Ty for the sincere advice and I am sorry if I sound like a whiny bitch.
Candi, how important will the good looks and good cooking be when he starts beating the shit out of you? When you have to go to the emergency room in the middle of the night to get a broken arm set, will you lie to the doctor about how it happened so you don't get him into trouble? Or will you just blame it on yourself, like you're doing right now to explain why he's so clingy?
Seriously, this is the classic early stage of an abusive relationship.
