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eraserhead19 wrote:

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One thing I will say however, is that Clay could have easily told his fans to STOP defending him

He did ask not to be defended.
06/09/07

I would love to impart a little wisdom my mother tried to pass on to me when I got picked on relentlessly in middle school. IGNORE!!! There is NOTHING that upsets a bully more than to be ignored. NOTHING! Trust me! It will work every time. If someone says something you don't like, rebut with your opinion. That's great. If they are only trying to cause a reaction or get you upset, ignore them. I swear it's the most painful thing you can do to them. Someone also pointed out something else I will respond to... I do defend the people I care about, but I stopped defending my mother because she told me to. She said, "I don't care about what other people say about me. Let them call me fat. Let them call me stupid. Let them call me ugly. It doesn't make it true." So she told me to ignore them as well. I KNOW that it is much harder to ignore when someone says something about someone you care about. And, I'll tell you, I could not be more honored and more blessed to have such amazing supporters who would go to the mat for me. (As someone posted in response to my last blog: "Charlie only had three angels. [I] sure got him beat!") I thank you. But believe me when i say, "Let them call me fat. Let them call me stupid. Let them call me ugly. It doesn't make it true." Ignore them. I'll love you anyway! ;) And, eventually, they'll give up. I wish I had believed my mom when she told me that in middle school. But, now, at 28 (God I feel old!), I finally know that she was right all along. Try it yourself.