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Urethra Franklin wrote:

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I wonder why they aren't asking Kris when was the last time he fucked his wife in that case? why the over interest in people sexuality? it doesn't define who anyone is as a person or as a performer.

If you thought about this issue for a second before opening your mouth, you'd realize that by merely acknowledging the fact that he has a wife, Kris is "out of the closet" as a heterosexual. Just like a gay person is out of the closet as a homosexual if they simply acknowledge that they have a same-sex partner. That doesn't mean that they go around talking about intimate details of their sex life - it just means they live their life the same way as every straight person on the planet.

If Adam publicly acknowledges that guy as his boyfriend - the same way that Kris has no problem acknowledging his wife - then he's out of the closet, and I'm not going to suggest otherwise. But if he won't do that, then he's in the closet. And no one has ever expected straight people to keep their relationships secret, so why should Adam?

This whole idea that coming out of the closet automatically equals going on the cover of People saying "I'm gay," or giving graphic details about your sex life to the public, is total nonsense. The only reason anyone would think that a gay person saying that they're gay (or acknowledging that they have a same-sex partner) is the equivalent of a straight person saying, "I like fucking so-and-so and we have oral sex and anal sex and I cum on their face and we like sadomasochism, etc. etc., etc." is if they think that gay relationships are just about sex. No one thinks that Kris is talking about his sex life when he mentions his wife, so why would Adam be sharing intimate details of his sex life by mentioning he has a male partner?

Straight people don't go through life keeping their relationships secret. If Adam keeps his secret, then he's in the closet. Simple as that. And believing that he should keep his relationship secret, because anything else is the equivalent of oversharing, is double-standard bullshit. Unfortunately, lot of well-meaning people buy into this double-standard bullshit, and it's sickening.

Yes, the fact that Kris married a woman certainly IMPLIES (not guarantees) that he is heterosexual. A better question would be asking about Anoop or Allison or Scott or Jasmine. As far as I know, those people haven't publicly come out (as straight OR gay). If we don't expect them to come out and declare that they are straight, then we shouldn't expect Adam to come out and declare that he is gay. Basically, the problem is that in this culture, it is generally ASSUMED that people are straight unless they say otherwise. It's really not fair that gay people have to "come out" while straight people don't. I think it would be better if everybody had to "check a box" if we're going to expect some of them to...