My fiance is a wonderful person, but he is so ridiculously clingy I feel like I am at my wits end. He asks me to go with him everywhere that it is possible.
"Want to go with me to get my car inspected? No? Are you sure?" I feel like if he had his way, we would be taking bathroom breaks together. He
seriously sometimes tries to sleep with his face literally two inches away from my own. He follows me around relentlessly. If I stand up and leave the room,
you can be sure he will either get up and follow me or ask me where I am going--we have a small apartment, there are only about three possibilities and
it's exhausting having to always update him on my motor activities. Sometimes I like to go to the bathroom in the privacy of our upstairs bath. He will
actually follow me, sometimes partially up the stairs, before I end up yelling at him that I'm going to the bathroom. Sometimes he makes it as far as the
door and I have to shut the door on his face. He always wants to know what I am doing, what I am reading, what I am thinking and where I am going. When he is
ready to go to bed he always tries to drag me with him, which is really annoying b/c he usually works really early and I don't see the problem with me
staying up until midnight, for example--we both used to be night owls together, staying up until almost dawn.
I have tried talking to him about it before, but I have not noticed any improvement. If anything it seems to be getting worse. I want him to give me some space or I feel like I'll scream. I want him to develop his own interests so that while he is pursuing them, I can peacefully pursue my own. I'm tired of him wanting us to do everything short of defecation together. Not interested in advice to dump him, because this is just one (allbeit extremely tiresome) aspect of his otherwise wonderful personality. Does anybody know what psychologically is behind this kind of behavior and how to get it to stop? I'm trying to quit smoking and just the dread of knowing I will have no alone time again until he goes to work tomorrow is making me want to go buy a pack.
I have tried talking to him about it before, but I have not noticed any improvement. If anything it seems to be getting worse. I want him to give me some space or I feel like I'll scream. I want him to develop his own interests so that while he is pursuing them, I can peacefully pursue my own. I'm tired of him wanting us to do everything short of defecation together. Not interested in advice to dump him, because this is just one (allbeit extremely tiresome) aspect of his otherwise wonderful personality. Does anybody know what psychologically is behind this kind of behavior and how to get it to stop? I'm trying to quit smoking and just the dread of knowing I will have no alone time again until he goes to work tomorrow is making me want to go buy a pack.
