Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

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feeds@yuku.com (pussycow) — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 06:27:21 GMT

I love myself every day. Sometimes twice

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feeds@yuku.com (Beefcake) — Sat, 28 Jun 2008 06:23:49 GMT

Men are always going to notice attractive women. As one of my friends says, "I may be married, but I'm not blind." Whenever I hear a woman say, "My BF/husband doesn't even notice any woman except me!" I know her husband/BF is a liar.

The kind of neediness and clinging that we've been discussing in this thread comes from insecurity. Women/men who need constant assurances and constant attention lack a healthy self-image and are trying to use the...

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (ogmious) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 23:11:55 GMT

L-I-V-I-N!

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feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 22:56:23 GMT

I think you have to be secure enough in yourself to not be bothered about your Sig Other finding other attractive. I know that my guy finds other women attractive but the attraction is just physical none of the emotional is there. Just like I have the same feelings. I think Matthew McConaughey is sexy as hell.

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feeds@yuku.com (ogmious) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 22:42:32 GMT

Capitals for DYATH (how ironic):

Good for you Angela, it sounds like the reconnection was worth it.
At the end of the day, my girlfriend is the one I want to see in the hot shoes. No doubt. Too bad shes nuts, lol.
Let me ask you, as a woman - and from reading your posting history - Im assuming you find men attractive occasionally? Would you feel guilty for feeling that way, even though you are now in a productive relationship? From your point of view (and a generalized...

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feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 21:37:47 GMT

My answer has to be seen through the glasses of one who has just reconnected with her soulmate but I know at least right now in his case he has no desire to go to a stripclub and get a lap dance. If he wants a lap dance he wants me to be the one doing it. And I am sure he finds other chicks attractive and that does not bother me. However, what I love is he will see a woman with hot shoes on (he has a bit of a shoe fetish) and his first thought is to ask her where she bought them because he...

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feeds@yuku.com (ogmious) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 21:29:48 GMT

YES

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feeds@yuku.com (DYATH) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:59:04 GMT

are capital letters broken on yr keyboard?

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feeds@yuku.com (ogmious) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 17:54:09 GMT

angela, i think i know where youre going with this question and im ashamed to say that the answer probably isnt as clear-cut as it should be. i will say that in the duration of our relationship i have never had a lap dance, and that decision has been made entirely without her influence. personally, i think its more than reasonable to ask your significant other to keep their hands (and their laps) to themselves, but asking that they deny something as primal and personal as attraction? that...

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feeds@yuku.com (Angela in WI) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 14:50:16 GMT

ogmious if you could have a lap dance would you prefer it from your girlfriend or would you be open to one from someone else?

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (PAPAYOKE) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 13:50:30 GMT

Oh day after day, there are girls in the office,
And men will always be men,
So don't send him off, with your hair still in curlers,
You may not see him again.
For wives (and whiny fiancees) should be lovers too,
Run to his arms, the moment he comes home to you.
He's almost here....

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (ogmious) — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 13:45:53 GMT

fuck, im having similar problems with my girlfriend.

weve been dating for awhile now and shes one of these girls who believes in 'cinderella' romance. in her mind, once you love a person, you are completely devoted to them in every in every sense of the word. its sweet to an extent, and flattering at times, but its also comes across as incredibly naive and unrealistic. i mean, id love if romance were truly like that -...

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (rolandofthewhite) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 15:33:13 GMT

Trixie Delight wrote:
Didn't we just go thru this with rolandofthewhite? He had some crazy cryer gf who wouldn't let him alone.

I think we should fix up the cryer and the clinger.

Um, yeah, I think they would make a lovely pair.

The cryer stayed at my apartment for a few days while she was in town, and when she had to leave she had a fucking meltdown.

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (Dr Weems) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 13:57:25 GMT

My heart will ALWAYS belong to Candi first.

I was willing to "settle" with Amy....but let's be honest....

....I would walk on Amykins in a minute for the love of Candi.

That is who I am.

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (IndifferentCow) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:36:42 GMT

Whoa...Amy's out?

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feeds@yuku.com (Dr Weems) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:28:46 GMT

Candi my love....I would never cling to you.

I would always grant you the freedom a beautiful butterfly like you needs.

Won't you reconsider our love? There's still time for us to be together forever.

Yours forever,
Weems

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feeds@yuku.com (Penelope McBagpipe) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:16:13 GMT

COME ON PEOPLE - step up the originality of your ghosties when you start r/l advice threads.

Gah and such.

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (DYATH) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 11:03:55 GMT

He loves me, cares about me, is faithful to me, cooks really well, is attractive, shares many of my interests, listens to me, tells me I'm beautiful every day, respects me, does not hurt me physically or emotionally, apologizes for even the smallest tresspasses, makes me laugh, believes in me, encourages me, and (last but not least) puts up with me--a huge plus I think we can all agree. I also really like and admire his mother.

Umm, that is the...

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (Citizen Postal) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 10:58:45 GMT

Keep him. He's just an alien advance scout from the "Greys".
You'll be in a favored position when they turn this planet into organ donor central.
Also you'll get discounts on anal probes. Right CP?

I have indeed heard thusly, though I have not personally experienced or investigated these claims. I suggest consulting with R or Star Jumper for a first hand account.

Re: Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (WiscBadger95) — Thu, 26 Jun 2008 10:50:15 GMT

candi7of9 wrote:
Ouija and IFYOUSEEKATE made me laugh. <3

He does not call a lot during the day. I'd say we trust each other. He obviously is not thinking I'm cheating, because it's around our place that the clinginess occurs. He is 30. Definitely not a virgin when we met. Not a Peterson. Been together for 2 years. It's hard to say whether he was like this when we met, because in the early...

Dealing with an extremely clingy SO

feeds@yuku.com (candi7of9) — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 12:20:29 GMT

My fiance is a wonderful person, but he is so ridiculously clingy I feel like I am at my wits end. He asks me to go with him everywhere that it is possible. "Want to go with me to get my car inspected? No? Are you sure?" I feel like if he had his way, we would be taking bathroom breaks together. He seriously sometimes tries to sleep with his face literally two inches away from my own. He follows me around relentlessly. If I stand up and leave the room, you can be sure he...